Rhianna Blamed for Chris Brown Attack?
Posted by the912project on March 15, 2009 · 19 Comments
Many Boston teens think the beating Rihanna took from Chris Brown was her fault and that violence is part of a relationship.
Some would blame the media for this kind of thinking? Who is really to blame for this kind of acceptance of a violent culture?
i say, who cares? i mean really!! this happens everyday.. if they werent famous it wouldnt be an issue right? right!
Typical of today's culture. Blame the victim, blame society, blame upbringing, blame anybody but the actual perp. Personal accountability has been out the window for decades.
I do believe this is an important topic. This is about domestic violence, and teens looks up to Rihanna and Chris Brown. It is sad that Rihanna is the one being blamed. Sure, there are two sides to every story and Rihanna did hit him, but that gives him no right to savagely beat her and threaten her life. Hopefully this young man learns a lesson and hopefully Rihanna will find a new man. Teens look up to Brown and Rihanna and don't need an example of violence.
this crap is not important to our freedom
The topic matters because it screams victim blaming and a lack of personal responsibility (one of the 12 Values). Yes, discussions here tend to go political, but it's not just Congress, Obama, and the judicial system that's to blame for our woes. Kids listen and learn from stories like this. Who is to blame? Everyone reading this section who hasn't taught the 12 values to their kids, because WE THE PEOPLE have to be better than our leaders and better than a biased media.
Ok, sorry Mark, I keep attaching to your post, BUT I cannot locate the Mexican drug war/Obama comtemplates sending troops to the border link that was on the main page yesterday, did this Hollywood crap about Brown/ Rhianna, who ever they are, actually TRUMP the border war that is going on a couple hours from my homw???? UN REAL to say the least.
Agreed.
Domestic violence is an important issue, but she blew it when she decided to go back to him.
We all know that it probably won't end well, but they are making their own choices.
I will support people who are strong enough to break the cycle… I can't worry about those who won't.
This is the kind of stuff that distracts us from the real issues that we are trying to deal with here and is one of the reasons why we are in this mess.
I think these stars' BEHAVIOR can be a valuable teaching tool. I and my peers, learned that good behavior was easy and bad behavior was hard. Talking to children about right / wrong behavior is all well /good, but by showing them we set a stronger example. "You are known by who you associate with." Losing our self pride is when nothing matters to us . If no one is there to see you steal, do you do it? If someone does see..do you do it anyway? If you tell someone you care about them, yet hurt them anyway , aren't you really hating yourself? Let's begin to teach our children that EVERYTHING they do reflects on them, and get them to care that it does!!! Let's begin showing them the statements"How will this affect those around me ?"and "Would My Grandma Approve of This?"
There is no room for ANY hitting in a man and woman relationship…I don't care who you are. It sounds like there has been other violence in their relationship. The first time that this happens, should have been the last…no question about it.
I'm an 18 year old in college, and I personally think that it's scary how quickly the hip-hop/rap culture has taken over the minds of most teens. I've never understood how people could listen to such trash, but when you actually listen to some of the lyrics…let's just say that it's not exactly something that we as Americans would want our kids to be hearing. I know that if I was a parent, I wouldn't let anything like that go anywhere near my kids. That's how my parents raised me.
There has always been, and unfortunately probably will always be, domestic violence. Today it is more in focus, it is in the light of day more, but no one seems to be paying any attention. I personally don't know the facts about what happened between these two, but to me it doesn't matter who is to blame. Chris Brown is at fault for raising a hand against a woman, something I learned never to do unless I needed to for self-defense. If that's the case, then he should come out and say it, but I personally don't think that's the case. Rihanna is at fault for staying in the relationship. There were probably signs that something like this was going to happen and she was naive to think this wasn't going to happen. If she provoked this, then shame on her for doing so, and shame on both of them for not acting like adults and settling things like real adults.
I think that's the problem with people today, everybody just reacts, no one thinks things through, and everybody acts on their first instinct. Sure, it's good to do that every once in a while, but in most situations, you need to be able to keep your cool, and focus on what could result from any action that you take. Think of it this way: if a police officer pulled over a drunk driver who decided to become combative, would you be upset if that officer's first reaction was to punch the man in the face? I certainly would be. I would understand how the guy feels, but police officers are trained to not react like that. That is how everyone should be. It should be "Ready, Aim, Fire", not "Ready, Fire, Aim".
That's my two cents.
Really, we should care because it is obvious that our youth as an issue with personal responsibility. It isn't about the story, it's about the issue behind the story. In that respect, this is important. We have a generation coming up that is all about placing blame rather than admitting fault. Is that not how we have gotten to this point in our country? Blaming everyone else?
Who gives a rats ass about either one of them. Let's talk about something important.
I agee. While domestic abuse is a serious issue, I AM SO SICK OF HOLLYWOOD AND POLITICS MESHING. It's so bad that Washington now thinks it's in a movie called "THE GREAT HEIST". People need to Stop allowing narassistic actors and politicians to rule the way they think, vote and live. Back to reality please!!!
This issue is worth discussing because these are people who are propped up as role models for today's youth. However trifling it may seem, you cannot ignore pop culture's effect.
It's easy to look down on Rihanna, but do you know what it's like? I don't claim to know her situation, but I know from my own experiences that leaving isn't as easy as it sounds. Abusers don't usually show their true colors before there's an emotional commitment, and even after that, real love is exceedingly difficult to kill. To love someone means to be willing to sacrifice of yourself for their sakes, to put their welfare ahead of your own, to accept their faults without thinking less of them. So you want to believe the abuser when he says things will be different, and you will keep believing him in spite of all the broken promises because you love him, and you remember the times when things were good, and you want to work hard to bring those times back. I'm not defending what Rihanna is doing; I think she should leave him too, because I know now these people never change as long as you're with them. But I think it should be understood that it's not as easy as it sounds.
But on a more important note, we cannot entirely blame pop culture and the media for finding abusive behavior to be acceptable. If these things have such influence over our children, it's because parents, schools, and churches are not doing their jobs to teach children right from wrong.
Having grown up in a home where domestic violence was a regular thing I find this survey disturbing. Unfortunately, I think it is a sign of the times and a sign of what the youth are being fed on television and in music videos. Women are to be controlled. How they can just blame her is wrong. If anything, both parties are to blame. There was hitting from both sides. It seems that neither one of them can control their tempers. I think both parties need a hit of personal responsibility. She needs to take responsibility for provoking the incident, and he needs to take responsibility for overreacting. You can't take a a gun to a fist fight, to use an analogy. His reaction was over the top.
ITS A SAD SITUATION WHEN WE ARE WORRIED ABOUT WHO IS BLAMING WHO IN A DISFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP. WHO CARES ABOUT THIS TOPIC?? IM OUT HERE TRYING TO FIND SOME AMMO!!!!
@AARON
Lay off the caps lock – and try to stay on topic
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Back to what this story is actually about, being the kids in boston. These children are the product of the moral-free socialist brainwashing machine known as public school, as well as parents who have dropped the ball in a major way.
I think in the future the kids of our generation may be known as the lost generation. No motivation, No morals, No personal responsibility, no real world skills (EVERYONE gets a trophy just for TRYING so hard!!!) – Unless we make a drastic change
What do you need ammo for?
@Justin
to stockpile before the bans and/or prohibitive taxes that our President wants to enact would be my assumption